You both amaze me. Four children and working full time! Let alone that one of your children needs extra special care. You both deserve a medal.
I'm afraid I cannot help with the jealousy issue, but I just wanted to congratulate you on managing to do so much.
Mum to Grace age 8 1/2. Subglottic haemangioma. Decannulated 19/12/03 after being trached for 3 years & 3 months.