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JaydasWorriedMama
05-24-2008, 01:42 AM
hi all! im new to the boards, my name is Jessica, i am 22 years old and a single mommy to a beautiful baby girl named Jayda. forgive me if im posting this to the wrong board, ive never been good at these things. ive never talked to anyone who could possibly understand a fraction of what Jayda and i have gone through and i just feel like venting.. so here it goes.

my pregnancy went pretty unremarkable other than her dad split as soon as he found out i was pregnant, and the fact that i was GBS positive when they tested me in my 38th week. (for those who might not know, GBS is something over 80% of women have when they are pregnant, it is not serious but they must receive two rounds of antibiotics while in labor before their water breaks) my due date was jan. 6th, 2007 and i was almost 2 weeks overdue when i went into labor. i was in labor for 72 straight hours with hard, nonstop contractions but only dilated to 3 cm and at my hospital, you had to be 4 before they would admit you. i went to the hospital 4 times in those 3 days only to receive shots of morphine and be sent home. the last time i was sent home, about 3 hours later.. my water broke. when i got to the hospital, jayda's heartbeat was getting too high so the doctors decided to do an emergency c-section (keep in mind that i did not receive the antibiotics i needed) when jayda was born, she wasnt breathing (her one minute apgar was a one) and non responsive because she ingested the infection from my uterus (that antibiotics COULD have prevented possibly) and they had to intubate her which did bring her back (her 5 minute apgar was 7). she was immediately admitted to the NICU. upon admission to the NICU (approximately 30 minutes after birth), she was accidentally extubated (which i took as meaning they accidentally ripped it out) and she was breathing fine so they left it out. the doctors told me she should be fine, and had her on antibiotics for 7 days. well, a couple days into the NICU, they attempted feeding jayda. the nurse noticed a struggle to breathe and coughing while she ate so the doctors ordered an upper gi as well as a modified barium swallow test. the modified showed severe aspiration of formula when she would swallow. ENT also suspected vocal cord paralysis. so they scheduled jayda for gtube placement and a bronch to find out what was going on. feb of 2007, jayda got her gtube and ENT diagnosed her with laryngomalacia and ruled out the vocal cord paralysis.

i brought jayda home a few weeks later and right away i knew something was wrong because everytime she would eat, she would throw up over 75% of what she took (from her nose, mouth, projectile). i took her to doctor after doctor and finally after being referred for the millionth time, the gi said she was failure to thrive and also had pneumonia. (she was 7 lbs. 3 oz. at birth and at that time was only 8 lbs., 9 oz. at 4 months old) i also suspect that the pneumonia was due to her constantly throwing up all day and the stomach acid and formula being aspirated. anyway, a nissen fundoplication was then performed and the pulmonologist started pushing me to get getting a trach. i was not convinced she needed it so i said no and we went home from the hospital.

jayda got better immediately and started growing like a weed. this was in may. we had no problems and she was doing fine. at the beginning of october, jayda had a salivagram ordered by the ENT. around this time she also got an ear infection and was put on antibiotics. her stomach is really sensitive to antibiotics and she got c-difficile virus and had to be hospitalized because of dehydration. in that week she was in the hospital, the attending doctor told me she saw the results of the salivagram and it showed jayda to be aspirating her own secretions. the doctor said she then saw that both ENT and Pulmonology had recommended the tracheotomy and that i had refused. she told me that the situation was serious enough that if i didnt agree and consent to the surgery, she would get DCS involved. i was and still am really confused at this. jayda has had zero respiratory issues other than at birth and the pneumonia in may. she has never struggled to breathe, as i have read was on of the comforting things to you trach moms.. that it allowed your child to breathe easily. her laryngomalacia has never been bad enough i guess that her airways ever collapsed, it mainly just caused severe stridor. i understand that she was aspirating her saliva, but if it wasnt causing her pneumonia, why is that a huge issue? so i consented for the surgery and on october 17th, 2007.. jayda was trached. oh and i forgot to mention, when she had a follow up modified in july 2007, she was still aspirating the thin liquids but not thickened or honey consistency liquids.

now ive learned to deal with everything that has been thrown at us but now i just feel like these doctors have given her a trach and thats it, left me in the dark. her ENT doctor does not have good bedside manner, he barely listens to me when i talk and acts like im an idiot and is in a hurry when i ask questions. i dont know of other options for a different doctor since jayda is on tenncare (state medicaid). we just had another modified and she is STILL aspirating the thin liquids. i know laryngomalacia is supposed to get better by 18 months but she was 15 months at the time of the test and im starting to lose hope. the ENT had ordered the modified to see about getting her trach out but now i know hes going to say no she wont get it out and i just dont know what to do. i want a plan of action, i want to know options, i want to know if there is other problems that they are not seeing. she is a VERY bright little girl, with NO delays in development except for the language and speech. actually in alot of areas, she is beyond her age in development, so im not too worried about neurological problems. the last speech therapist that did her modified did say she had weakened muscles and decrease sensation in her throat that caused her aspiration (which makes me think maybe its a problem from possibly her throat being damaged from the traumatic intubation at birth). her PCP talks to me but basically leaves anything concerning the trach and feeding tube up to the ENT.

i know this was alot to read but if any of you have any words of encouragement or advice, i would REALLY appreciate them. i cant find anyone that has even had close to the same situation because most of the kids who are trached with laryngomalacia also have other diagnosis' or had problems with their airway collapsing and not being able to breathe.. but i dont hear too much about laryngomalacia kids also having dysphagia. thanks to anyone who even gets through reading this. lol, i dont know if ill have any replies but it sure felt better to get it off my chest. and me being young and a single mom, i dont have a place like this just to put my thoughts on her exact situation on.

Shylent
05-24-2008, 01:57 AM
Just wanted to welcome you to the boards ! :grouphug: I LOVE your little gal's name - Jadya Rose is so wonderfully girly , lol.

P.S. She is a cutie too !

lil' G's mom
05-24-2008, 02:24 AM
Wanted to welcome you, I'm still new also, and don't know to much about Jayda's condition, but if anyone can give you advice and answers to your questions, or just plain support and understanding it is these wonderful moms, dads, and caregivers on this board....:hug:

JaydasWorriedMama
05-24-2008, 02:35 AM
thankyou for that warm welcome May + Dawn! I chose Jayda's name because I thought it would be unique and pretty until I saw 10 Jayda, Jayla or Jayden's in the NICU lol.

and I have been reading alot of your posts, Dawn. my prayers are with you that bringing lil G home goes smoothly. (and get all the nursing you can! lol)

Ainsley's Mom
05-24-2008, 03:25 AM
Welcome to the boards. Jayda is beautiful. For a young single mother it sounds like you're handling things very well and have already learned a lot over the past year. I suspect that the doctors aren't telling you much because they really don't know. I know how frustrating it is when you don't have a clear understanding of why your child needs the trach or what can be done to get it out. I think with the laryngomalacia it can improve with time and if not by a certain age then there is surgery that can be done. I think you need to give it a little more time to improve before you worry that it never will. Give her until 22-24 months? A friend of mine's son has laryngomalacia with very loud stridor. But he sats okay and doesn't seem to aspirate so they have passed on surgery for the time being. He does not have a trach but breathes very loudly and they have the problem that everyone thinks he is horribly sick even though he isn't.

The one point that wasn't clear. I think you said she was severely aspirating so she got the g-tube (and then a nissen) and then still aspirated when you fed her after that? And that she got pneumonia. My question is whether she was ever NOT fed orally and did she still have respiratory infections or pneumonias? She already has the trach so I suppose it's a mute point. Having the trach does give some peace of mind in that sense, since you can suction out whatever you need to.

I'm no expert but it sounds to me like there is good reason to hope things will improve for her. She's already got some great things going for her. The fact that she went without the trach for months, the fact that the aspiration has improved over time, that she's doing well developmentally. I think when she is better able to manage her secretions you can start talking to your docs about what steps to take toward decannulation like using a PMV or capping. For now try to focus on the good. I know that's easier said than done.

You're doing a great job!

Come vent any time you need to. :hug:

TommysMommy
05-24-2008, 03:41 AM
Hi! Welcome to the boards! My son Tommy is/was a chronic saliva aspirator with severe dysphagia. He had surgery done to correct his swallow, but we're not to the point he is allowed anything my mouth yet. (Birth defect to the esophagus) We kept the trach until we found the right combination to stop the aspirating and now we're working on getting it out. Hopefully.

I know you're in Memphis, but can you get a second opinion from Vanderbilt? Are there other ENT's in your hospital or your area? If you're not satisfied with him, then it's time to find a doctor that will listen to you and respect you. Your doctor needs to be more agressive in figuring out WHY she's aspirating and stopping it! Until she stops, it is safest that she is trached so you can remove the secretions from her lungs that may be what she aspirated as well.

JWorthington
05-24-2008, 03:57 AM
Hi and welcome. You've certainly come to the right place for help and advice. I'm sorry you have had to join our 'trach moms' club, but we are a pretty awesome bunch!
Jayda's story sounds similar to Sam's. Sam was born full term with no complications but developed feeding problems shortly after birth. He was discovered to have a laryngeal cleft and aspirated for 18 months until he had surgery to repair it and was given his trach. He still takes all his nutrition through his g-tube as they are not convinced that his dysphagia is resolved, though the laryngeomalacia is improved now and we are working towards getting the trach out at some point. A lot of the children on here don't need the trach for long, each and everyone is different, it may be that Jayda just needs it to help with the aspirations for now, but as she grows things may improve. Have you had a consult with a dysphagia specialist? I would ask for one, the can offer lots of advice on feeding and swallowing and whether things need to be thickened.

Good luck, come here to vent anytime you wish.

Juliexx

faywrayy
05-24-2008, 06:55 AM
Welcome Jessica! That's a lot to take in for anyone and it sounds like you're doing a great job keeping it together.

Do you have Early Intervention working with Jayda? If not, call them immediately for an evaluation. My daughter (trached at 7 weeks) has had a speech therapist coming to the house since she was 4 months. It was her who recommended a feeding clinic to help Kate wean from her tube. Kate never aspirated, but we couldn't get her off the tube feedings. Anyway, the feeding clinic therapist is the one who diagnosed Kate's dysphagia, put her on Vital Stim (to stimulate the muscles needed for chewing and swallowing). It worked. Kate's muscles responded and she is almost completely orally fed now. She needs an LTP to get decannulated, so we're keeping the tube in to supplement her until that happens, hopefully this summer.

Anyway, please come back and read and post often. I found tons of help, information and support here and no way I could have done it without these guys!

Melisande
05-24-2008, 06:58 AM
Welcome! You have gotten good advice. It is always hard to know why things happen. With our kids, not all things are clear up front. Some things either resolve with time or get addressed or diagnosed later, if that makes sense. Some kids also have some lung issues that increase their likelihood of sensitivity to pneumonias and aspiration over time. Those can resolve as well, but it takes time too. 2nd and 3rd opinions are good and frequently going elsewhere is not a bad idea.

I know what you mean about your frustration with traching. We fought it as well at first, then they sat us down with 5 docs in a room and gave us the talk about how important it was to trach Donovan (and venting). Basically, there was nothing else to do and I see that now. I am not a nurse or a doctor, but a medical social worker myself and when it's your kid, you want an answer. Medicine cannot always provide that right away, unfortunately. However, you can look for answers and expect a plan of action. That is doable.

As for birth trauma, damage, etc....sounds like they didn't handle things well for you guys. Those are very real issues and I'm not sure how you sort those things out.

Welcome, you've obviously done some research and I can tell you, there are some smart parents here who will offer up what experience and knowledge they have gained. It does help.:hug:

Mom_to_an_angel
05-24-2008, 10:18 AM
Welcome, to mthe boards Jessica. We are a good group of ppl that tries n comfort everyone here that is needed. We all come here to vent and lisent to each other as well. So again welcome and your daughter is beautiful little girl.

KJKK8437
05-24-2008, 11:39 AM
Welcome! I think these families have seen it all, and I am very sure they can help you two get through all of this. I've learned so much from everyone here, and I cannot imagine going through the last two months without them. It was a pretty horrific time for us, and yet I felt more prepared for everything because of this Board.

The only thing I can think of to add to what the others said is the more understanding you can show the doctors, the more likely they are to respect you. (Now, some docs just won't, ever, and that is sad.) At first, they may think you just "read a website" and are using medicdal terms you don't really understand, but eventually they will come to appreciate that you have studying HARD about what is affecting your child, and your input and analysis is IMPORTANT. You see your child daily, and you may IN FACT know something more than what they can figure out seeing her at appointments. You deserve answers, and you deserve a plan, and if they don't know what to do next, they need to tell you and refer you to someone who can help.

Post often; vent often. And welcome.

drct1245
05-24-2008, 12:36 PM
Just wanted to say welcome to the boards...

alizesmom
05-24-2008, 02:26 PM
Welcome Jessica and Jayda. I have been admiring her picture. Vent away. It sounds like you have good reason to do so. I am sorry things have gone so awry in your life but you certainly got a beautiful little girl out of it. I hope you can get the doctors to start communicating with you since this seems to be a big problem. In the meantime, we are here to listen and share experiences, to tell you what has helped us and maybe you will find yourself teaching us something. :hug: Karen

My little figther
05-24-2008, 02:54 PM
Welcome to the board!!! I am sorry you had to join the club with your beautiful little girl. You know things may seem a little bleek right now but I think they are a lot of positives also.... Jayda is beutiful and doesn't not seem to have any devlopment delays and I believe there is good chance Jayda will grow out of her aspiration problems. My daughter is a single mom too of Cedric who has a G-tube - a nissen fundapliction - a broviac line and a trach placed on October 16, 2007 - one day before Jayda. So I understand what you are going thru and most of the parents on this board as well - so please ask questions, vent anytime you want you always will find somebody to help you.
Michelle

Ola
05-24-2008, 09:49 PM
Just wanted to say welcome, too!

Hope
05-24-2008, 11:33 PM
Just wanted to say welcome also. Please always feel that you can come here to vent ... and for support and good information. To one extent or another we all know a little of what you're going through. You are obviously very strong and smart. You will both make it through this!
Hope

JaydasWorriedMama
05-24-2008, 11:53 PM
wow, i am overwhelmed by how nice and welcome everyone here has made me feel. it feels like a huge burden is lifted from my shoulders because all of you GET me and my situation. being young, most of my friends are just graduating college. not having babies yet or dealing with what we've been through. so this is great. i have questions for almost everyone so i dont know how to do it but ill try to make them all in one post..

Susan - first of all, i LOVE the name Ainsley.. its a beautiful name fitting for a beautiful little girl! thank you for mentioning that there IS a surgery that can help with laryngomalacia.. the doctors havent mentioned it but i just added it to my list of questions for our next visit in June. about what wasnt clear (sorry about that), after getting the g-tube.. she was never fed orally. but she got the pneumonia because when they performed the placement, they did not do the nissen initially. so when i would bolus fed her, she would throw it up, almost all of the feed. so THAT is what caused the one bout of pneumonia she went through was her aspirating the feed that she would throw up. but after the nissen was finally performed, she has yet to throw up and has not even had a cold since then. Again, thanks for the encouragement. capping her trach is also on my list of questions.. she has been using the PMV at all times during the day except when sleeping since 4 weeks after getting the trach.

Rene - was Tommy's aspiration due to muscle weakness, or decreased sensation or just due to the birth defect? I am not sure (but highly doubt) that her insurance will pay for a second opinion. I was looking into Dr. Cotton at Cincinnati Children's Hospital but realized the cost is WAY too much on my own. im giving this ENT one more chance and if he isnt helpful at the next appt. in June, im insisting for a change in ENT. another reason i havent switched yet is that i figured any other ENT would hesitate to take on her case since we're so far into it now. btw, Tommy is definitely going to be a heartbreaker! :)

Julie - I know I cant let Jayda get around all these handsome boys on here because they are gonna be some ladies men when they get older, hes adorable! About the dysphagia specialist, is that an ENT that just concentrates on dysphagia problems? how would i go about finding one?

Angela - Kate is gorgeous! Yes, we have also been involved with Early Intervention and Jayda has been getting speech therapy 1x/week for about 5 months now. she has really been vital and is the reason Jayda knows over 50 signs in sign language and even tries to vocalize the way she does. she also gets special instruction therapy 2x/month. What is the Vital Stim you mentioned? we went to the feeding clinic about 2 weeks ago and they made some changes (from formula to Nutren Jr.) and lots more taste trials, but said if she still aspirates liquids, we cant start weaning her from the tube.

Melisande - THANK YOU for your encouragement. its a great feeling to know im not the only person who fought against the trach! i think its just hard for me to accept still because i dont see any great changes like you guys did after being trached. she is still having the same diagnosis and didnt have any SERIOUS issues (ie, lung diseases, problems breathing) before the trach. but everything happens for a reason right? lol

Vennessa - thank you, Jordan is very handsome!! ive requested to be your myspace friend.

Karin - THANK YOU for what you said. you made me feel empowered like 'yeah.. i DO deserve answers!' lol so im going to think of you at the next appt so i can stand up to the doc! Alex is so cute by the way, i love little baby feet like his! (i feel like i keep saying these kids are cute, but they really are all SOO cute!)

Michelle - that is so ironic that little Cedric had his trach done the day before Jayda. have you guys gotten it to be second nature already like i have? i couldnt of even IMAGINED on that day that by now id have it so down pat.

Hope, Karen, Dawn, and Ola - thanks so much to you guys too for the welcome. i really feel like i have friends that understand and care now lol. and all of your kids are adorable!


wow that is a long post but if i think of anything else, ill just post again lol.

babysupermansmommy
05-25-2008, 12:08 AM
WELCOME! AND GOOD LUCK!
you sound like you are handling things very well!
i wish i new what to say to help you but i dont
anthony was born with a condition that we HAD to put a trach in

Isaac'sMomandDad
05-25-2008, 07:26 AM
Jessica,

Welcome to the boards! Jayda is beautiful.

Lara

Kate
05-25-2008, 12:35 PM
Welcome-you will find that this board is great! You will get a ton of support!!
I don't know much about you're daughter's condition--but still want to welcome you!!! :hug:

mylesmom
05-25-2008, 12:37 PM
Welcome. I don't post as much as others but I try and keep up on the news here. Our son has Laryngomalacia. He has a tracheostomy but only because of complications arising from the surgery to correct his laryngomalacia. His airway swelled 72 hours after surgery and they felt the best and safest thing was to put in the trach. He did have a procedure done (an epiglottiplasty...spelling?).......when he was 4 weeks old. I think his steroids were stopped too quickly and his airway swelled..........

His laryngomalacia is all gone now and we are awaiting decann any time......we had an appointment last week but they bumped us out of it.......the only thing stopping a decann is if there is any collapse around the stoma or any large granuloma's occluding the airway.

I hope I gave you a bit of info!

It sounds like you have a lovely baby! Welcome again!

WeAdoptKids
05-25-2008, 04:05 PM
We are glad that you found us. I know what you mean about picking out unique names. We chose Malachi for our son 17 years ago. No one had heard of it except out of the bible, now Malachi or a different spelling of it is everywhere. Oh well....I love the name Jayda.

You just jump right in, ask, cry, vent, scream....it is all here and it is the one thing we all do.

Roberta

haltec
05-27-2008, 10:43 AM
Hi Jessica. Welcome to the board. I hope you find the support you need. Everyone here has been Great. Sienna got her trach in Sept of '07 due to vocal cord paralysis caused from an intubation so I'm not much help with your medical questions. But I wanted to make sure I welcomed you.
Remember that you are not alone, we've all been through similar situations.
Jayda is beautiful. :)